Although my brother finally more or less accepted that his girlfriend needed to work this summer, when she took a trip elsewhere just for fun, he freaked out because she was having a good time instead of being with him while he was miserable. He stole my parents’ car a few weeks ago so he could drive across the country to her, but came back after driving for two hours when he realized that this plan was not actually going to work. He said his mind wouldn’t stop racing, but none of the people who were supposed to be treating him considered that it might be related to the fact that he had just started taking two different antidepressants and had gone nearly three weeks without follow-up treatment. A few days after that, he wound up in the hospital for the second time. He “escaped” once (he was on an unlocked ward, so it’s not like it was hard to escape) and the police brought him back, but he’s been out again for a while now. He was on Seroquel for a while in the hospital, but even the doctors admit it probably made him worse, and took him off it.

His ex-girlfriend, if that’s what she is, has cut off some forms of communication with him, but they’re still emailing each other, and every time he gets an email from her, he gets upset. A few days ago he smashed the glass door of a cabinet. I know this girl has problems with depression, but she’s always seemed much more stable than my brother throughout their relationship, even though they’ve always fought a lot. Now, though, she’s seeming nearly as unstable as he is. She keeps telling him that she loves him but can’t be with him, and mixed messages are the last thing he needs right now. He’d prefer if she were supportive, of course, but I think he could even handle a breakup better than he can handle what’s going on right now. Not that I’m saying this is her fault — I know he’s not easy to deal with, but she’s really making things worse, even though she’s not doing it on purpose. Apparently she has also been sending weird emails to my parents.

Previously, my brother had planned to attend a day programme soon. Now he says he doesn’t want to bother trying to get better unless his ex(?)-girlfriend is supportive of him. That’s just him being completely pigheaded. His shrink, though, did say that nobody can help him “until he gets over that girl.” Um, his main problem is that he doesn’t know how to get over “that girl,” and if he knew how to do that on his own, he probably wouldn’t need a shrink.

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